Have you ever noticed that anytime you have chosen to uplevel your life or business that precisely at those times doubt creeps in? Trying to numb you, confuse you or whatever it takes to stop you from shining your light brighter than before.
Anyone who has ever taken a leap of faith by investing in a program, coach or mentor to transform their life will know what I am talking about here.
You get started with great enthusiasm and then usually somewhere around the 3rd or 4th week into your program, resistance starts to fight you every step of the way. Welcome to your inner saboteur!
How to recognize it? Here are 7 of the common ways:
- internet or phone connection will drop right in the middle of your session, usually at precisely the point of crucial insight
- foggy brain or eyes glaze over and unable to stay conscious to hear what is being said
- you miraculously ‘forget’ the time of your appointment or find yourself stuck in traffic or otherwise held up
- you start falling behind in the program, feel overwhelmed and want to drop out
- you find yourself doing the exact opposite of what you said you would
- you start shoulding on yourself and end up feeling miserable
- just because you ‘mess up’, rather than seeing that as a learning opportunity, you come to the conclusion that nothing will ever work for you so why bother
I have been in another upleveling phase for the last few months myself by participating in several programs to redesign my sacred business. It’s a ‘work in progress’.
This has challenged me to stretch into getting ‘out there’ even while things are not yet ready, to create a program which really reflects the joy flowing through me and to let that be an amazing transformational experience for everyone who joins me as they release their limitations and struggle so they can trust their heart and inner guidance and experience the joy and ease of expressing their authentic Self.
On top of that, I have also participated in Nalini’s Trinity program over the last 3 months. Surrendering the personal self into the Divinity I am. I thought I had done that a gazillion times! Haha, the ‘little self’ sure knows how to play tricks to have us believe its lies. HINT: The fact that I ‘thought’ I had ‘done’ this were red flags.
It has been the most phenomenal journey. Surrendering into BEing. Interestingly enough, as the weeks progressed and whatever had been holding out from surrendering dissolved, clarity emerged and the creative juices were on fire.
Since last week’s new moon it feels as if everything has gone into love speed and it is hard to fathom how much has changed and been implemented since then.
Implemented. A key word in these times. Acting on the inspiration from your infinite BEingness.
Since sending out invitations for the new Joy Booster Discovery Sessions last week, I have had the pleasure of sharing the most sacred conversations with the courageous women who took me up on this call to discover the one thing their heart most desires.
Such an honor and such a joy.
If you’re anything like me, then you will find it much easier to walk your talk when you have the support of a strong community.
And, in fact, you may find yourself participating in several communities, much like tribes.
Sometimes loyalty to your tribe, however, can actually keep you ‘stuck’. It can also take you to new heights.
Tribes can be your family of origin, your soul group family, your friends, your colleagues or anywhere you belong to a group.
Caroline Myss says it so well: “You only rise as high as the tribe you’re in.”
By sharing with others in your tribe, everyone can evolve by supporting one another to rise and shine. When you are in a program to evolve yourself or your business, you can receive amazing feedback from each other, opening to new perspectives, new possibilities, which you might not have considered. Your blind spots are usually very visible to others. When you are willing to receive support, you will keep going when the saboteur shows up.
In order to keep going when times get tough, you have to be connected with your passion, your big WHY. Your inner commitment. This is what fuels the fire in your belly and lights up your heart.
This requires you to connect with your feeling nature and to allow your most vulnerable side to be revealed. It calls forth from within what has been there all along. Your inner treasures.
It’s at times like these that your commitment to embodying the light that you are has got to be priority number one.
Your commitment to living a life of ease and joy has to be stronger than your commitment to struggle and pain.
Your commitment to shining your light has to be stronger than the fear of rejection, which ironically keeps you rejecting YOU.
You know what to do but… do you do what you know? In other words, are you trusting your inner guidance AND are you acting on the inspirations you receive?
As things have been shifting really fast all of a sudden ~ ofcourse it is never all of a sudden but it sure can feel that way~ I am finding it most helpful to spend extra time in nature to integrate all the transformations. My preference is to be by and in the ocean. Especially when the colors of the sunset dazzle my senses with delight.
I also just started a daily yoga practice again by joining the Gaiam TV 14 Day Spring Cleaning Challenge.
For all you high achievers out there… if you’re up for a challenge, this might just be a fun one for you!
To shift the striving for perfection, wanting to be and do the best to an attitude of striving for excellence. This includes accepting where you are at any point in time. On some days the yoga classes are less than half an hour. The inner perfectionist might just want to push you on to DO more. Or not bother at all if it is so little.
Mmm… is this playing out elsewhere in your life?
By allowing yourself to commit to showing up for yourself everyday, you will find your body gently adjusting and becoming stronger and more supple. Easy does it;)
So what to do when doubt sneaks its way into your experience?
- move your body ~ even just getting up and sitting in another part of the room… or dance or have a yoga session or go outside and enjoy time in nature
- shift your perspective ~ one physical way to quickly shift is to let your body hang to the floor and look up at the world from this upside down perspective. Plus it rushes some fresh blood to your brain!
- Choose to re-commit to your divine alignment
- connect with a buddy in your program or reach out to your mentor or coach; if you haven’t found your tribe or mentor yet, then set an intention to be shown an optimal match for you
- acknowledge yourself for how far you have come, for the steps you have taken
- celebrate something you achieved and count your blessings
- remember your big WHY
You are here to embody your Divinity, to shine your light, to express your unique gifts and talents with the world so as to be the biggest contribution you came here to BE.
Do not let doubt or fear hold you back from your commitment. Be strong enough to know when to reach out for support. You denying your Self is not serving anyone nor is it nourishing you with joy.
To be continued…
Many joyful blessings,
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