How many times have you tried to be all things to all people? Trying to please everyone…. During my years in the airlines I had the greatest training opportunities when it came to people pleasing 
In the early years I gave it my best shot… yet no matter how hard I tried to make everyone happy…there would always be someone unsatisfied…
I’d rationalize it away by thinking they were talking to my uniform and what that represented in their life yet it still felt most unpleasant to be the target of their upset.
Then I stepped into a leadership role as purser… by then I was well into my healing training and had many tools and techniques up my sleeve to diffuse energy and stay in alignment, regardless of what was going on around me.
Well… that worked pretty well most of the time, however, the night flights had a way of giving me a reality check to see how far I had really come! I’d start out by sending blessings to everyone with every breath while attempting to take meal orders in first and business class… it was amazing how people responded…
Then I’d let the blessings slide for a few minutes and just focus on the meals and…wham! Someone would be irritated about not having their first choice available…
If I was alert enough then I’d catch myself and start consciously sending blessings again and the situation would resolve peacefully within seconds…. yet more often than not I’d get caught up in the battle energy and be caught off guard, wondering what had just happened;) 
Where it really tested me was with colleagues and ofcourse with family, friends and lovers…. I am eternally grateful for the many opportunities they gave me, probably unconsciously, to practice staying true to myself. Knowing that it is impossible to please everyone is one thing…
being okay with people rejecting me while trusting that those who love me will be drawn to me and those who are not a match will leave… that took some practice… and still trips me up at times.
So ofcourse, the closer we feel to people, the more attached we tend to be to having their approval and… that is the perfect recipe for the people pleaser to be activated!
That pain and fear of rejection will have us do the strangest things… so clear up those fears and need for approval and start loving who you are with total abandon Adore yourself… appreciate your quirks and supposed oddities… marvel at your talents and gifts… be delighted by who you are being in this world… celebrate the love and support in your life… from yourself, from your connection to your Infinite Self, from others, from Life…
And be amazed at how allowing those not in alignment with you to leave you… makes room for those who do love and adore you as much as you do to enter! Liberation and freedom…
So…. love me or leave me…
and joyful blessings to you all!
Tina
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