As delicious as Swiss cheese is to eat, when your energy field looks like Emmentaler it may be time to review your definitions of healthy boundaries
So… how do you know if this may be the case? And, more importantly, what can you do about it?
If your inner database contains mixed definitions of what healthy boundaries are then you may find yourself in a bit of a double bind. Especially when these are held in your unconscious and hence outside of your awareness.
Fortunately, or not, whatever we have stored in our (un)concsious database is reflected back to us in our daily living.
One of the things I have noticed within myself and many others along the way, is that when one is on a supposed spiritual path, then there can be the tendency to believe you have to be open and be an energy transmuter for everything and everyone… a belief that you have to take on other people’s energy to transmute it for them when they are having a hard time, for example. This mostly occurs unconsciously….
This, by the way, was part of the job description for being a rescuer…and can also be recognized by any of the following:
- You find it much easier to give than to receive
- Saying NO to others can make you want to squirm
- You’d rather betray your Self than risk disappointing someone else
- People love being in your presence and feel rejuvenated after time spent with you while you may find yourself exhausted
- You have a tendency to take on more than you can handle ( because heaven forbid that you say NO!) and then push yourself to get it all done, even if this means you’ll burn out
- You have a fear that if you choose to be true to your Self that others may find you selfish and you’ll end up all alone
- You’re naturally able to feel what others are experiencing and can tend to pick up other people’s feelings or even physical symptoms, no longer clear on what is yours and what belongs to others
- Your shoulders are probably pretty tight from carrying all those extra burdens which were never yours to carry
I am sure you can add plenty of other variations to the above… but really, what if it all comes down to (part of) you wanting to feel needed and in control?
I mean, who would you be without the role of the rescuer, the savior, the one who everyone can count on to be there 24/7 ?
Well… from my personal experience I can tell you my answer to that question is: FREE. Free to be who I am.
It took me a while to get here! And redefining boundaries has been of the utmost importance. It brought up a truckload of outdated agreements and beliefs which had held me hostage in limitations of which I had not been aware but which had been sabotaging me left, right and center.
So… what are healthy boundaries to you?
And why have boundaries when we are all connected in the Oneness?
This is a matter of discernment and recognizing that not everything nor everyone is energetically aligned or optimal for your unique resonance. Just like all music is composed of sounds in different harmonies, you are not going to resonate or relate to all music. What may feel rejuvenating or nurturing to one person, can feel like having a hammer banged on the head by someone else.
Boundaries are often confused with putting up walls or barriers, which require defending.
This can show up in your life as letting people or things reach a certain limit and then you block them out as you retreat to recharge. Or you may find yourself defending your decision to say NO to something or someone.
Healthy boundaries are like the membranes around a cell; they are transparent and when they are healthy, they allow in what nurtures the cell and keep out anything which is not optimal for the wellbeing.
As there is so much to ‘monitor’ while we move throughout the planetary collective soup, it would be pretty much impossible to consciously select what to let in and what to keep out.
Many healers have carried with them lifetimes of training to take the energies into their bodies or energy fields and transmute them, often to the detriment of their own wellbeing. This may be so deeply imbedded that to let this agreement be released can feel like breaking a vow.
What if you were to hand it all over the Divine? And what if you allowed Source to inform you of the truth of boundaries?
This is precisely what happens when you allow the Heartspace to navigate you throughout your days. I first experienced the initation into the Heartspace with Mary Nalini Macnab in 2010. Since then I have been blessed to experience many more of the Delphic Wave initiations, each one taking this deeper into my beingness. Just the other day I realized that I still had a few tiny holdouts which were preventing me from fully surrendering to the Divine. It was connected to trusting Her completely. When Nalini invited me to jump into the Great Mother’s arms and allow myself to be held there, I felt those strands dissolve and a deep inner knowing that the one thing I can count on for sure is Her.
Being held in the Heartspace feels to me like being held in the arms of Source. Here I can relax and allow my Self to BE. Knowing that my unique vibrational signature, my soul sound, magnetizes to me those people and events which are aligned with my divine essence and… in the event anything not in alignment were to come in, then it is transformed, optimized or otherwise handled by Source… the optimal boundary ‘manager’!
If this resonates with you, then I can highly recommend starting out with the Delphic wave audio ‘Molding the Mystical Container’, which initiates you into this Heartspace gift from the Divine. This is part of the Embodying Fluidity program.
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To be continued…
Many joyful blessings,
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